Finding Acceptance from Loved Ones.

The Basics...

A question that I come across often is "how do I confront my loved ones about being a Vampire?"

This is something that I am sure almost all of us have wondered in our lives, and is something that can easily go wrong and cause a lot of hurt and confusion. We feel this strong desire to be accepted, we want those close to us to understand what we are and be supportive of us. But more often than not, we tend to approach this topic in a way that our loved ones just can't understand.

There are ways that you can confront your loved ones to explain what you are, what makes you unique...ways that won't cause them to throw up the Red Flag immediately, so that they can listen and get a better understanding of what you want them to know. But please understand that not everyone is capable of understanding, and more often than not they will not understand.

Most important, leave the V-word out. Just because you aren't alarmed by that word doesn't mean that they won't be also, most likely when a person hears that word they automatically think of Hollywood. The instant they hear that word, they lose all concentration of what you are saying and start to think that you can't differ between Fact and Fiction. Remember what you're trying to accomplish, you're not trying to prove that Vampires are real...you're just trying to get them to understand...and they don't understand the V-word.

Another thing, keep it simple. We might know what the Vampire Terms are, but they don't...try not to use the words Feed and Blood in the same sentence, in fact don't even use those words at all. The words we use to label what ways we feed, they don't know those words and these words are most likely not a part of their vocabulary. If you use the word Pranic, they will ask what the word means and when you try to describe it, you will only throw them off. Try to use words that they can relate with.

Stick with energy, that's something that everyone can understand. Be it a Hug or something along those lines, a hug is a basic example of an Energy Exchange and something that any person can relate with. When someone is feeling bad just a simple Hug can turn their day around...every human feeds off of a Hug or any type of affection and we all need it from time to time. When one offers a Hug they want you to feel better and they are offering that positive energy to you. That type of energy exchange might not be enough to last you very long, but we can all agree it makes anyone feel better.

If you feel the need to find acceptance from a loved one, make sure that you know them well enough to find the best way to approach it, most importantly just take it easy. Try to imagine or think of how this person would react when you tell them or try to explain yourself, how would they react if you were to tell them that you were Gay? If the person in which you would like to confront about yourself could not understand or accept you for being different than they are, than don't even bother making the attempt. Trust your instinct on this, use your Empathic abilities and try to think of past dealings with this person.

Its a long hard process and if you try and force it upon them, you will only cause yourself more harm. It's best if you just bring it up now and then in little bits instead of dropping the news on them all at once. Don't go into too much detail, just simply explain yourself in small intervals and spread it out over time.

These suggestions should only be taken as what they are, simple suggestions. Please do not think that what I have said are fail-safe methods for finding acceptance from your loved ones, for only you can truly know if discussing yourself to others is safe. If you are not sure than try and discuss your situation with someone that you can trust within this Vampire Community, it's good to have a second opinion.

I truly hope this helps all of you, and I wish you the best of luck...

***Desmodus Vapir***

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